Let’s just say my life doesn’t exactly fit into the typical mold. Many years ago, I decided to opt out of having kids so that I could devote myself to building my career and growing my income. The choice, which seems unusual to some, has brought me happiness – and financial success.

That’s how Bonnie Gayle starts her Money article, and honestly, it’s hard to see why she sees herself as so atypical. Peruse the news a little more, Bonnie; you’re not the only one who wants to “have it all.” This sort of thinking has certainly been on the rise in recent years.

It’s tragic (but unfortunately not surprising) to hear that she perceived this as an either/or scenario: “Instead of investing in a family, I’ve invested in myself – and the return on that investment has been well worth it.” For certain, family means sacrifice. It means investing your time, your energies, and your finances into others. But that’s a given. It’s only rather recently that this has been raised as an issue.

There was once a time that children meant everything, on both a personal and a societal level. Children meant that your name, your history, your life lived on. And as theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer put it, “The test of the morality of a society is what it does for its children.” In modern terms, having children translates to living expenses, college tuition, a lot of time, great patience, less nights on the town, major lifestyle changes, and so on – all the hassle Bonnie just doesn’t want to deal with. In the end though, it’s all done for the “return on investment.” For many, investing in a family was considered the ultimate investment. We daresay it still is.