How do you handle grief over a miscarriage when the ideology you’ve bought into tells you that you’ve lost nothing more than a clump of cells? Leslie Loftis explores this in her article “Miscarrying While Feminist” in The Federalist:

…the essential pretense of abortion, that a fetus has no humanity, has been an established understanding for some time. We are no longer redefining reality. That happened years ago. Now young women are rediscovering truth as we have our own children. We are putting the redefined reality to the test and finding it wanting.

To illustrate her point, Loftis cites an article written by feminist Alexandra Kimball in The Globe and Mail. Following her own miscarriage, Kimball struggled with a deep sense of grief and the realization that feminism could not console her. Her confession is telling:

The more I considered it, the more I became convinced that the silence around miscarriage was connected to feminism’s work around abortion. How could I grieve a thing that didn’t exist? If a fetus is not meaningfully alive, if it is just a collection of cells – the cornerstone claim of the pro-choice movement – what does it mean to miscarry one? Admitting my grief meant seeing myself as a bereft mother, and my fetus as a dead child – which meant adopting exactly the language that the anti-choice movement uses to claim abortion is murder. […] I felt not just invisible to the ideology I’d grown up with, I felt forsaken.

Women like Kimball are realizing the failures and shortcomings of a bankrupt ideology. But they cannot acknowledge them, for to do so would be to admit the wrongness of their position. Women following this route must live in denial to their emotions (as well as to their consciences) and keep on plowing forward over the speed bumps. Loftis invites women to reconsider and explore deeper the inconsistencies of radical feminism. “The more one inspects feminist assumptions,” she writes, “the more one sees paths to isolation and loneliness. In modern feminism, we are all forsaken.”

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